Actress Joe Chen who has had a successful career in showbiz, has just turned 40 and while most of actresses her age are either married, in a relationship or have kids, Joe has remained what she believes she is: a strong independent woman. Although there have been guys romantically linked to her in the past, none have proven to be “the one” so Joe’s love life has always been something of interest to people.
Joe Chen was recently among the female celebrities to appear on the show Middle Me where she opens up about her personal life, which she rarely does. Joe mentions that she had actually a chance to make things work with someone but at the time, she chose to focus on her career. While Joe has accepted that she may not be able to start a family now, she has never regretted her choice.
Joe admits that there are guys who have tried to win her affections in recent years, but she liked none of them. She does reveal that there are times when she wishes she could change and be more gentle. But that would not be the real Joe Chen since she wants to be true to herself. With her age, Joe Chen does feel a bit lonely at times but she doesn’t think it’s because she’s single.
Despite appearances, Joe still believes in love and still looks forward to it. She tells herself not to marry for the sake of marriage. “Marry a person if you love each other and want to spend your life together even when others are saying negative things about you.” Wise words from Joe Chen right there, guys.
Regrettably, Joe has been called a leftover woman “剩女 (shèng nǚ)” by some people since they think that she’s past the age to have a family, much to the dismay of Joe Chen. She tells us that the concept of a leftover woman is a very narrow-minded notion. The word shèng which means leftover in Chinese also sounds like the word flourish “盛” and that is how she would choose to interpret the term.
I have to agree with Joe Chen when she said that your sense of belonging doesn’t have to come from a man. “It could be the house you’ve bought, your own personal quiet place or your home. Even the couch you often sit in can bring you a sense of belonging.”
I love her
Recent study pointed out that the happiest sub-group of the population is single women without children (https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/may/25/women-happier-without-children-or-a-spouse-happiness-expert)
Joe Chen should be proud of not compromising! I got married at 38 to a 老外. Not saying that's right for everyone, but I finally found someone that I didn't have to sugar coat and worry about insecurity and idiotic juvenile possessiveness. (which seems to be a romantic theme in female romance books in chinese. smh)
The chinese notion of "leftover women" is a backward concept. In this day and age it is absolutely shameful to endorse this way of thinking.
She ain't no 'leftover'. She's gorgeous, witty, spirited and outright. At least she knows what she wants and pursues what she wants. So let her be..choices in life is what one will have to live with. And she made her choice; she's happy, she's content. And she is viciously patient for her true love. So let her be! Ms Chen keep doing what you do best and love, leave the rest to take its course if it's meant to be.