You might remember Jackie Chan‘s estranged daughter, Etta Ng, came out as lesbian in Oct 2017 through an Instagram picture of herself in front of a rainbow background. Since then, she has moved to to Canada and dropped from people’s radar.
She has since resurfaced in a video that’s now been trending. In the video, you can see the 18-year-old Etta with her 30-year-old girlfriend, Andi Autumn, reading off a script and admitting they were left homeless by homophobic parents and have approached a number of friends but were turned away.
They further explained that that they will be split up if they turn to the government for help, so they have no recourse but to make the video and bring this out to the public in the hopes that they can get assistance.
Etta’s mom, Elaine Ng, is already aware of the video and is not rushing to help out her daughter and further calls out her girlfriend, Andi Autumn, for being a bad influence on Etta.
They further explained that that they will be split up if they turn to the government for help, so they have no recourse but to make the video and bring this out to the public in the hopes that they can get assistance.
Etta’s mom, Elaine Ng, is already aware of the video and is not rushing to help out her daughter and further calls out her girlfriend, Andi Autumn, for being a bad influence on Etta.
As a parent, I can’t help but feel extremely triggered by this. I feel this is exactly what the problem is with some kids nowadays, wanting to be taken seriously but blaming everybody else but themselves when they hit a wall. Now, they’re seeking help and validation through the internet and, it’s frustrating and I know I am not the only one who thinks so.
Elaine had to raise Etta without the help of her dad, Jackie Chan, but it’s no excuse for the kid’s behavior. I don’t blame the mother either because we can only do so much for our kids and Etta is already 18 which is legally an adult. One can only hope that we have raised our kids well enough to take on the challenges of the real world.
If, by some chance, you get to read this Etta, you need to understand that society is not responsible for putting a roof over your head nor for putting food at the table. Moreover, you stop being your parent’s responsibility when you left home to live with your 30-year-old girlfriend in another country. If you feel that you are responsible enough to make the decision to leave your parent’s home, you are responsible enough to fend for yourself. Remember, this is the path that you chose to take. Nobody forced you into that situation.
Second, I do not see any disability that would prevent you both from getting a job so why don’t you both try getting one? It’s how normal people, like myself, pay for shelter and food. I believe it’s a matter of both of you not wanting to do any work that you feel is beneath you like maybe picking up trash or working at McDonald’s. I, for one, do not find it demeaning to have to do manual work that puts food on the table. What is demeaning for me is making a video asking people to help you out because you can’t help yourselves out. If you are desperate enough to stay together, then please consider getting a job.
Anonymous
I agree, she chose the path herself.
Anonymous
Spot on! I hope she gets to read this post!
Anonymous
Pretty much. You know what she wants when she starts with “ I’m Jackie chan’s daughter” when both sides want nothing to do with the other for years but now she needs help, so his name comes up lol i wonder the same thing, why dont you go get a job? And whats so bad about gov assistance, is it worse than being homeless? Its not like the gov say oh u two absolutely cannot meet. Thats a weak reason to not get help but turn to the internet hoping for an easy way out. This whole thing seems like they try to gain sympathy and money while dont want to life a finger to earn money and get a place. If you rlly love each other and ur at the end of the road, then you ll sacrifice and do whatever it takes to make it work. Jobs are everywhere , comments on their YT channel is caling them out too
Anonymous
Dang, the dislikes on this video…The comments are not sympathetic at all. And why is the video under the category 'nonprofits and activism'?
Really though, what were they expecting? She up and disappeared for 5 months to Canada without letting her poor mom know where she was. Apparently, the girlfriend's friend let them stay with them for months and then they overstayed their welcome. And they can't stay in shelters for 'some' reason. Do they expect other people to support them? The girlfriend is 30 years old, why is she acting like a kid? She's Canadian I believe, so she can work? She already sounded shady as HELL when they started dating when Etta was underage considering that age gap. I think it says a lot about them that family and friends on both sides aren't willing to help them… The girlfriend sounds like a terrible influence.
Visitor visas for Canada only last 6 months, right? I wonder what will happen then. Seems like they are trying to gain attention and sympathy by name dropping her dad and that they're a lesbian couple in hopes of dad or the public opening up their wallets. It doesn't seem to be working though. I hope they take this chance to learn to take responsibility for themselves and their choices.
Anonymous
I saw the story in other places and I really don’t know what to make of it. Her relationship with her mom seems to be very volatile. There’re story about how Elaine Ng with drinking problem and being very religious, Etta with suicidal thought and then coming out. While I think most people are sympathize with Elaine but I do think that Etta is also suffering from some sort of unstable mental or psychological issue. I do think that they’re both are not very good with communication. An 18 years kid will not be running away and not talking to her only family for 5 to 6 months if there are not some serious issues. There’s an expectation with Asian people that you’re always need to respect and listen to your parent(s) but in some cases, the parent(s) also need to give their kid(s) a chance to express their thought. I do hope that Etta will get herself out of thinking she’s entitled because of her relation to Jackie Chan. It doesn’t do her any goods to garner unnecessary negative presses.
jay c
Defintely agree! You have my vote
Michelle Teng
I agree. Government shelters are not like prison where you can't go out to see each other even if they were split up. It's a weak excuse. I also feel that Andi's a bad influence on her. She's a grown woman and if she really loved Etta and they are really desperate, she would have insisted that Etta should go back to her mom.
Michelle Teng
Let's hope it works out for her. 🙂
Michelle Teng
Thanks! I hope so too! 🙂
Michelle Teng
I agree. The couple are trying to use their sexuality as a means of trying to gain people's sympathy and it's a terrible thing to do because there are other members of the LGBT community that deserve more attention because of discrimination and oppression. They are not the first ones to be shunned by homophobic parents and they won't be the last so they should do something productive about it and not make a video calling out people for not helping them more than they already have.
Michelle Teng
Thanks Jay! 🙂
Michelle Teng
I agree. She should be reasonable and not drag other people into it just because they won't help her.